I need help with a problem a shoe problem

Balletflats32 · Post by **Balletflats32** » Wed Sep 11, 2013 4:44 am

So I have a shoe and foot fetish and my wife knows this my wife likes shoes but more old people shoes no offence to anyone who do like them they just dont turn me on. my wife is very beautiful and is only 27 years of age we've been together for 10 years now and married for 7 I absolutely love ballet flats don't get me wrong i like heels to I just prefere flats instead but anyway trying to get my wife to buy some or even wear them is a challenge she knows it turns me on but when get her to insert it and taste the juices off of it she says she feels like I'm making her act like a slut I don't want her to feel this way I tell her no its not that it just turns me on that's all. What can I do to change this help plz

I even have probs trying to get her to wear flats when we go out she would rather wear granny shoe she said they r more comfy and if I tell her they r old people shoes she get mad a little I even tell her it would turn me on if u wears your black flats and she like really look I'm not saying my wife is a bitch she just doesn't share the same interest as I do what can I do to change this plz help

This isy wife's red and black flats

shrimper · Post by **shrimper** » Wed Sep 11, 2013 8:20 am

You have a big challenge. Your wife has hangups about what is your favorite attraction. You may eventually need to seek couples counseling. I've had to do that in the past.

Balletflats32 · Post by **Balletflats32** » Wed Sep 11, 2013 8:42 am

Did that help couple counseling I don't know if she will be up for that cause she feels its a sluty thing to lick insert or do other stuff with shoes and I think she think I like her to do sluty things instead of just making love I tell her no I'm just trying to spice thing up a little that's all and I tlalso tell he'll hell whatever turns u on we can try it to

love_me · Post by **love_me** » Thu Sep 12, 2013 3:13 am

Hi, would you share an example of the "granny shoes" she prefers to wear, and a pic of her bare feet? Just so that we get the full picture. Don't force your wife into anything. The key to getting a women to do what you want to do, if she loves you, is a) to show attention to her needs and b) to show what you like or need, without asking her to do it. This will increase her love, relax the situation and in the end she'll be caring about helpoing you satisfy your desires, the one way or the other. (This can be anything from doing what you'd like her to do up to allowing you to do it with a different person).

A good way to show you care about her needs is to go and fine comfy "granny" shoes that still turn you on. I don't know the situation in the U.S., but here in Germany, there are specialist magazines for comfy shoes that do not only offer granny shoes, but also fashionable designer shoes that are extra comfy. You don't find those magazines on the main streets, but they exist. Buying her a comfy pair of shoes that you find attractive is a way of showing, hey, look, I am willing to compromise!

Personally, I am very attracted by young women with tall feet and ballet flats, but my wife cannot wear ballet flats. Her foot is just not shaped that way. She wears hells (especially for me, when we have a night out, or in bed) and I found her a lot of everyday shoes that are comfy and still sexy. I am happy that way.

Balletflats32 · Post by **Balletflats32** » Thu Sep 12, 2013 12:26 pm

Ok I think I do push it at times cause I think if I don't ill never get it and I don't mean to say granny shoes just that I seen her 2 aunts wearing the same shoes once and they were talking about how comfortable they were her aunts r all in there 60's and I guess I just have the image in my head of her aunts and its just a turn off I told her your young beautiful and u always will be even when u reach that age but u should dress your age not hand me downs from your mom but she says it shouldn't matter what I wear as long as I like it and I say that's fine it's just when I see u wearing clothes from your mom and shoes that your aunts wear makes me think of them and I'm not married to your mom u should choose your own style that defines you she loves shoes just not the kind I like and I the pic that I just posted she has never worn once there r brand new she has only wore the black flats a few times cause I pretty much begged her to wear them the others were just used during sex but she never just puts them on for me I have to get them and put them on her and sometimes she's like no y do I always have to wear my shoes can't we just have sex without my shoes I tell but it turns me on then I get turned off. after sex she asks me y I like sex with her wearing her shoes so much and I tell her it turns me on and we dont always have to do what i want we can do things that turns u on to she say I turn her on and the brown sandals and black shoes 2 of her aunts own

Sorry ill have to post pic of the granny shoe soon the ones I have r saying files r to big to post but I managed to get the pic of her feet and black wedges

Balletflats32 · Post by **Balletflats32** » Thu Sep 12, 2013 4:38 pm

Here r what I call her granny shoes these shoes don't turn me on cause I've seen her aunts that r over the age of 60 wear the same pair

Bandolinohaze · Post by **Bandolinohaze** » Thu Sep 12, 2013 8:16 pm

Balletflats32 wrote:Here r what I call her granny shoes these shoes don't turn me on cause I've seen her aunts that r over the age of 60 wear the same pair

Comfy shoes are soft to f**k,I understand these arn't ballet flats but those sandals I love.done the same style.LOVE TO SEE YOU LOAD THESE

Balletflats32 · Post by **Balletflats32** » Fri Sep 13, 2013 12:35 am

See the prob is I don't think I could load these cause I just picture her aunts feet in them instead of hers and it just turns me off. Id like to picture her feet in them but I can't I see them more in a flat heel or flip flop or wedge most women have a shoe collection but my wife has mostly sneakers and what I think r ugly shoes

My wife has 3 pairs of flats 1 black 1 green and 1 red. She has only worn the black ones a few times that's it the red and green ones only worn during sex a few times but getting her to wear them during sex is like getting a kid to eat his veggies at dinner time she has allowed me to take pic only cause I tell her I won't ask her to put on the shoes and do things with her shoes and if I want it I can look at the pic on our computer

love_me · Post by **love_me** » Fri Sep 13, 2013 1:30 am

Hi,

I understand the problem with the aunt. I find the sandals a turn-off. The other ones are OK by themselves but if you've seen them or similar ones on her aunt that can be a problem.

Have a look at these:

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How do you feel about them? It is the closest thing to ballet flats that I could get to so far. They are suuuuper comfy from a granny store that decided to expand their inventory with a range of designer shoes. Colani design here. They are a turn-on for me. I blew quite a couple of loads in them and later would see her attend some important business meeting wearing them ...

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Your wife has nice feet. Not as tall as some women's, but still a healthy, normal, young female form, so finding nice shoes to wear for her that are comfy too should be possible.

If I were the counslor, I'd say: Your wife should learn that she needs to change something about her footwear. You should learn that you can't just make your wife wear the shoes that you find a turn-on when you see them in the store. Try to find a compromise that suits you both. Make it a habit of going shoe-shopping together. Let her select comfy shoes, but make sure she doesn't select the worst ones (the ones the remind you about her aunt), but ones that are at least neutral. Try to gradually approach each other.

Wish you good luck!

Hollyinhose2013 · Post by **Hollyinhose2013** » Fri Sep 13, 2013 7:17 am

I feel your pain my friend. I have been married 22 years and probably have had sex maybe once in the last 10 years. I have a serious foot fetish and it is very specific as all paraphilia's are. I love pretty nyloned feet in high heels or wedges or ballet flats but mostly heels. I have a wife who hates nylon and is almost unable to wear heels. When we first got married before kids there was some compromise but at this point, we just avoid this subject as much as we can. It is a big elephant in the room but we feed it peanuts and so far it hasn't trampled us. I have always been a big fan of masterbation and I think she has developed some skill at it as well. We have a lot of good times and we trust each other and we make a life together so it doesn't seem right to break it up over something like this. The point is that you may never get her on the same page as you. Marriage is a compromise. Some couples come together strictly because of a fetish or sexual element. I envy them but I am not certain that their marriages are any more solid than mine is. I would rather stay with a woman I love and trust and genuinely like than throw it all away for a chick that was willing to humiliate me and let sniff and lick her high heels and nyloned feet.

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